Getting my girlfriend to be a second shooter at our engagement without realising

I’ve often looked at engagement shoots and there are two types. One is when a couple are already engaged so is more of a pre wedding shoot and one is where someone is brave enough to invite a photographer along whilst he or she actually pops the question. The latter is rarer and it made me wonder if I could get a friend to be there when I did it. The more I thought about it the more it didn’t fit in with what I had originally planned.

I’d always envisioned asking Becky in the Gower of South Wales as it’s a place close to both our hearts and the location I’d wanted to do it had never changed. Three Cliffs is a popular but often missed beach. There is no direct car park access and it’s close to the popular and more easily accessible (by car) beaches of Caswell and Oxwich so it’s easy to see why so many people pass it by.

The spot I’d picked is called Nott Hill and is fairly quiet, with an incredible view of Three Cliffs Bay below. I decided to pretend we were there to both take some photos and that’s when I’d ask. I wanted to ask in an unique way and wondered how I’d hide the ring. I’ve always liked old film cameras that allow you to look down into a waist level viewfinder and thought it would be awesome to pop the ring in there. Instead of opening a box to present the ring, I’d be opening the viewfinder. Then it got me thinking, I wondered if I could get Becky to take photos of me doing that and disguise it as doing something else.

Luckily we’d planned this holiday around our birthdays and I was able to hide the ring in present wrapping paper – if asked I’d just say it’s a little birthday present. We went away on the Monday and Becky’s birthday was the Wednesday, giving me just two days to get away with saying it’s just a present. For months I’d casually mention that I had this 3D photo idea planned, saying that by having the film camera on a tripod and Becky taking a photo of it with another camera, it would somehow produce a 3D image.

So even though I talked utter rubbish that would bore most people, Becky still listened and even revealed that she had Google’d 3D images and my idea sort of made sense…

Little did she know…

So came the day to do it. It couldn’t have been more perfect.  We’d just arrived and the sun was setting beautifully with hardly any wind at the cliffs edge. We started snapping away and Becky was happily taking photos of our surroundings whilst I was setting up several cameras. I’d set up one camera to time lapse everything going on with an 85mm lens, then the film camera on a tripod facing the cliffs edge. I took my other free digital camera and unwrapped the ring box and slid the ring into my pocket. My heart was pounding. I asked Becky to come over and try the “3D thing” and I let her play with the settings so I knew she would be taking a decent photo when the time came.

“Che, it’s not working…”

It really wasn’t, Becky’s hay fever had kicked in and some of the wind had started up!  She wasn’t able to focus because her own eyes wouldn’t focus. I started to pray she’d have patience with me whilst I urged her to do something that wasn’t working. I told her to close her eyes and popped the ring inside the viewfinder and shut it.

When she started taking photos of me opening it, she commented it looked like something had broken inside – she’d heard the noise of me dropping a ring in there and there was now a silhouette of a ring.

“Take a look inside”

Rather than actually looking inside she decided to zoom in on the picture she had taken on the LCD screen.

It was so funny watching her expression change with each click of the zoom button.

I got on one knee like an awkward plonker and asked and she said yes :)

Yessss! After a few moments of hugging, kissing and crying I looked at Becky and said “you’ve just been the second shooter at your own engagement!”

So, I managed to pull it off and I’m engaged to the most wonderful person in the world!

As well as photos from the engagement I’ve included some photos from the rest of the holiday as we had such an amazing time blessed with beautiful weather :)

About 90 percent of the photos taken were done with our Pentax film cameras using various film stocks such as Fuji 400H, Kodak Portra 400, Kodak Ektar 100, and Fuji Velvia 50 slide film.

I shot with a Pentax LX, Becky a Pentax ME Super and the digital stuff was done with my Nikon D800 cameras.



Three Cliffs bayphoto of viewfinderunique engagment photosproposaldecor photoscampsite surroundingsbeach engagement photosfish and chips at the seasidepaintandrustmumblespierpierneedsfixingmumblesarcadesbackatcamppicturesonthebeachstarting a firesunset wedding photoswarming up our feet
Add a comment...

Your email is never published or shared. Required fields are marked *

  • Don Bon Woodward WilliamsSeptember 29, 2015 - 5:16 pm

    This is amazing che and congratsReplyCancel

  • Beth LloydSeptember 29, 2015 - 6:23 pm

    Amazing xReplyCancel

  • Stacey Louise Lowen-DaviesSeptember 29, 2015 - 6:35 pm

    So so beautiful Che! XReplyCancel

  • The Camera DiariesSeptember 29, 2015 - 8:34 pm

    Thoughtful, romantic, creative. Way to go! Congrats!ReplyCancel

  • Jules ConnellSeptember 29, 2015 - 10:07 pm

    I got married there 7 years ago, we hired penmane manor as it looked over the 3 cliffs! Beautiful place, we love the Gower. :)ReplyCancel

  • Caroline PotterSeptember 30, 2015 - 4:42 am

    Wow incredible guys XReplyCancel